"You choose your family in each existence because of the frequency of that group. You choose them based on your past existences, based on what you have understood and not understood and what you are choosing to learn and release in this existence. You do not choose them based on the identities of the Beings within that family.
When you are back with us between your existences, you choose to be born into a family frequency that will give you the opportunity to create the changes you wish for." DZAR from "Messages from Your Soul"